Dreams about death, especially involving loved ones, can be quite distressing. In many cases, dreaming about a loved one dying does not necessarily predict an actual death but rather symbolizes change, fear of loss, or unresolved issues.

Your husband and son dreaming about you might indicate their subconscious concerns about your well-being or a fear of losing you. The specific imagery of choking on metal could represent feelings of being trapped or overwhelmed by something in their lives or yours. It might suggest that they are worried about something harmful affecting you or the family, or it could symbolize their feelings of helplessness when it comes to protecting you.

Here are a few considerations you might reflect upon:

1. Communication: Encourage open conversations about feelings and concerns. It may help ease their worries.
2. Reassurance: Sometimes, simply reassuring your loved ones about your health and happiness can alleviate their fears.
3. Emotional Symbolism: Think about any recent changes or stresses in your family dynamic that could be triggering these dreams.

Understanding the emotional context behind these dreams can provide insights into what your husband and son might be feeling in their waking lives.